Now that you have a better understanding of your sexuality and its true potential, it is time to become multi-orgasmic.
This ability requires developing both your sexual strength and your sexual sensitivity. Most men who practice these
exercises will begin to experience multiple orgasms within a week or two and will master the technique within three to six
months. Some with strong sexual energy and sexual sensitivity may experience them the first time they try, while others
with weaker energy or less sensitivity may take longer than six months to become regularly multi-orgasmic. It also
depends on your dedication to the practice. We give you these time frames as an estimate, but the most important thing
is not to get discouraged. If you persevere, you will get it.
Breathing Basics
Strange as it may seem, learning to control your ejaculation and to become multiply orgasmic begins with strengthening
and deepening your breathing. As is true in all martial arts and meditative practices your breath is the gate through which
you can gain control of your body. Breathing is both involuntary and voluntary. In other words, we breathe regularly
without thinking about it, but we can also choose to change the rhythm or depth of our breathing. This use of the mind
to cultivate the body is the very basis of Sexual Kung Fu.
Your breathing is also related to your heart rate. If you are breathing quickly and shallow, as after running, your heart
rate increases. If you are breathing slowly and deeply, your heart rate decreases. Increased heart rate is part of orgasm
and breathing quickly is one sign of orgasm's approach. So the first step in controlling your arousal rate and therefore
your ejaculation, is deep and slow breathing.
BELLY BREATHING
Most of us breathe very shallowly, generally into our chest and shoulders, which allows only a smal amount of oxygen to
be absorbed by our lungs. Bel y breathing, breathing deeply into the bottom of our lungs is the way a newborn child
breathes. If you watch a sleeping newborn, you will see the child's entire belly rise and fall with each breath. Belly
breathing allows us to replace stagnant air at the bottom of our lungs with fresh, oxygen-filled air. This is the healthiest
way to breathe, but we lose this natural ability as stress and anxiety cause us to cut our breathing short. This anxious
breathing is confined to our upper chest. When we are happy and laughing, we are able once again to breathe into our
belly. In this exercise, you will learn to belly breathe as you did when you were young.
FINDING THE WAY
Inhale Through Your Nose
When practicing any of these exercises always inhale through you nose, which filters and warms the
air. When you inhale through your mouth, you breathe unfiltered unwarmed air, which is harder for
your body to assimilate.
EXERCISE 1
BELLY BREATHING
1. Sit on a chair with your back straight and your feet touching the floor about shoulder width apart.
2. Place your hands over your navel and relax your shoulders.
3. Inhale through your nose and feel your lower abdomen expand at the navel area (below and around it) so that
it bulges outward. Your diaphragm wil also descend (see figure 5).
4. Keeping your chest relaxed, exhale with some force to pull the lower abdomen back in, as if you were pulling
your navel back toward your spine. Also feel your penis and testicles pull up.
5. Repeat steps 3 and 4 eighteen to thirty-six times.
A few minutes of belly breathing each day will teach your body to breathe deeply on its own, even when you are asleep.
When you are in the heat of passion, this ability to control your breathing will be essential to stopping yourself from
ejaculating and to expanding the feeling of orgasm throughout your whole body.
Once you learn not to ejaculate, it is very important to do this deep-breathing exercise or eventually just to breathe
deeply on your own. It will help circulate your sexual energy through your body and absorb it into your organs. Belly
breathing also massages the organs and prostate and can relieve the full feeling many men experience when they first
stop ejaculating.
Although it is not as important to exhale through your nose as it is to inhale, it is still preferable. Some people, however,
find it easier to exhale through their mouth when breathing deeply. See what works best for you.
Belly Laughing
THE MULTI-ORGASMIC MAN
If you are having a hard time with belly breathing, as many Westerners do, you can practice belly
laughing instead. A belly laugh is the kind of laugh that makes your whole abdomen shake. It is not
the fake salesman's laugh; it is the genuine laugh you have with your close friends. It is the kind of
laugh that can make your stomach ache, since most of us do not use these muscles very often.
To belly laugh, sit in a chair with your back straight and your feet on the floor about shoulder width
apart. Place your hands over your belly and start to laugh (from your belly). Feel your stomach
vibrate. This belly laughing will help relax your diaphragm and let you breathe from your belly. It also
will help you generate a lot of energy, which you will later learn to circulate through your body for
better orgasms and better health.
EXERCISE 2
CENTURY COUNT
1. Slowly inhale (expanding your belly) and exhale (flattening your belly). Count each complete inhalation and
exhalation as one breath.
2. Continue breathing from the belly and counting from one to one hundred, thinking only about your breathing.
3. If you notice that your mind has strayed, start again.
4. Practice this exercise twice a day until you can count to one hundred with ease.
Increasing Your Concentration
This exercise builds on the belly breathing you just learned and will help you improve your concentration. In this exercise
you count one hundred breaths without letting your mind wander. (A complete inhalation and exhalation is one breath.)
This is very simple, but not easy. Most people have difficulty counting to ten, let alone one hundred, without letting their
mind wander. One multi-orgasmic man explained his practice: "I go the gym and I'll sit in the sauna and count my breath
in and out as one, in and out as two, all the way to one hundred. Sometimes I'll be breathing and counting and suddenly
around fifty or sixty I realize I'm thinking about stocks or something and I can't remember what number I'm at, so I go
back to one and I just start counting again until I get to one hundred."
Strengthening Your Sex Muscles
Now it is time to develop your sexual strength. The pubococcygeus muscle, or PC muscle is the muscular sling that
stretches from the pubic bone in the front to the tailbone in the back (see figure 6). Most men feel their PC muscle at
their perineum, just behind their testicles and in front of their anus. This is the muscle you use to stop yourself from
urinating when you can't find a toilet. The PC muscle is also responsible for the rhythmic contractions in your pelvis and
anus during orgasm. In The G Spot, Ladas, Whipple, and Perry describe the importance of the PC muscle: "If men
increase the strength of their pubococcygeus muscle, they too can learn to become multiply orgasmic and separate
between orgasm and ejaculation." Your orgasm builds from your prostate, so learning how to squeeze on the prostate
with your pelvic muscles is essential. In addition to having more and better orgasms, you will by this squeezing prevent
hardening and swelling of the prostate and help avoid or heal prostate problems.
The PC muscle (which surrounds the prostate gland) serves as a valve around the genitals that you will learn to open and
close. You can feel this muscle working when you are trying to push out those last few drops urine. Women feel it most
when they are trying to push out a baby. Women who have developed strong PC muscles can hold a man's penis in their
vagina more tightly, increasing sensation for both partners.
The PC muscle is also what allows animals to way their tails. Strangely, the word penis literally means "tail" in Latin. So
what you are going to do with these exercises is learn to "wag your tail" to strengthen your erections, intensify your
orgasms, and separate your orgasms from ejaculation.
Monday, October 15, 2007
Your Arousal
According to Taoism, we need to feel aroused, to feel the life-giving force of sexual energy, every day, because when we
feel aroused, our bodies produce more sexual hormones, which in Taoism were considered the fountain of youth. (This
need for arousal is why sex sells: we are drawn to images that stimulate this sexual energy and these sexual hormones.)
When you learn how to circulate your sexual energy, you can feel this rejuvenating polymer at any time.
BECOMING AWARE OF YOUR AROUSAL
To learn to become multi-orgasmic, you will need to become increasingly aware of the speed at which you get aroused.
This sounds pretty straightforward, but most men pay little attention to their arousal rate. Often men go from erection to
ejaculation like race cars, without taking the time to notice, let alone enjoy, the sights along the way.
When you start to get sexually aroused, your penis increases in length and width as its spongy tissue fills with blood. As
you become erect, valves close down in the veins, stopping the blood from returning to the body. Erection occurs
spontaneously in newborn boys and in most men at least several times each night while dreaming.
Almost all men at some time in their lives experience the awkward situation in which they are unable to get an erection
with a partner. The occasional inability to gain an erection may be caused by what psychologist Bernie Zilbergeld calls the
"wisdom of the penis," telling you that there is something that needs to be addressed in your relationship, or it may
simply be a sign that you are distracted by work or other pressures.
If a man repeatedly does not get an erection, he is called impoten a word that also carries the suggestion of being weak
and powerless. In Sexual Kung Fu, there is no such thing as "impotence," and by using the solo exercises to strengthen
your erections and the Soft Entry technique in lovemaking, you should never have to worry about it again. If you are
unable to get an erection when you want or if you want to know what to do when the situation arises (or doesn't), see
"Snake Charming: Overcoming Impotence" in chapter 8.
THE STAGES OF ERECTION
Most men believe they are either horny or they’re not, that they either have an erection or they don't. When we are
young, we get directions so often and so quickly that it is hard to distinguish levels of arousal. The Taoists, however,
noticed that there are actually four stages of erection – four attainments, as they called them.
The first is firmness (also referred to as lengthening).
The second is swelling.
The third is hardness.
The fourth is t
Your erection is not then just a static appendage, but undergoes a process that reflects your level of arousal. Western
physicians have recently confirmed these four stages of erection, although describing them in somewhat more technical
terms.
Healing Tao instructor Walter Beckley described the four stages like this: "In the first stage, your penis starts to move and
f
Entry technique). In the third stage, it is erect and hard. In the fourth stage, it is stiff and really hot. This last stage is
also when your testicles draw into your body. It is much easier to avoid ejaculating when you can remain in the erect and
hard third stage. Pulling the sexual energy up helps keep the penis from getting to the final, stiff and hot stage. Relaxing
is also essential, as is trying to be aware of when you move into that anxious, explosive fourth stage when ejaculation is
imminent.
THE SECRET OF MALE SEXUALITY
As we mature as lovers, we are able to gain some control of our arousal in an attempt to please our partners. General y
called our staying power, this ability is often achieved by learning to distract ourselves from our arousal (thinking about
baseball statistics, for example) rather than by learning to sensitize ourselves to it. True ejaculatory control comes from
knowing your individual arousal rate, not ignoring it. As you learn to feel your rising pleasure more, it will become easier
for you to take the multi-orgasmic path.
BUT ISN'T SEX SUPPOSED TO BE ABOUT RELAXING AND LETTING GO? To experience sexual pleasure, men must
certainly relax and let go, but if we relax and let go too much, we ejaculate and then most, if not all, of the pleasure is
gone. Knowing when to let go of our sexuality and when to control it is the essence of Sexual Kung Fu, and the secret to
male sexuality.
Your Ejaculation
THE MULTI-ORGASMIC MAN
The ejection of semen from your body actually occurs in two parts. In the contractile (sometimes cal ed "emission")
phase, the prostate contracts and empties semen into the urethra. In the expulsion phase, the semen is propelled down
the urethra and out the penis. When you become multi-orgasmic you will experience the pleasurable pelvic contractions –
what we will call con ractile-phase orgasm, which is felt as a popping or fluttering sensation in your prostate – without
actual y ejaculating. Though some men have multiple ejaculations during one love-making session (this is easiest for
teenage boys), it should be clear by now that this is quite different from multiple – nonejaculatory – orgasms.
As you are becoming highly aroused, a few drops of clear fluid may trickle out of your penis. This preseminal fluid comes
from the prostate and other glands, such as the Cowper’s glands, which produce an alkaline fluid used to lubricate the
urethra and pave the way for the sperm. The Taoists called this liquid water, which they distinguished from milk, or
semen. This fluid is perfectly natural and signals the approach of contractile-phase orgasm. It may, however, have a
number of sperm in it. This is the "pre-ejaculate" that they warn you about in sex-education classes, so you will need to
make sure that you continue to use birth control even if you don’t ejaculate. However, if you have nonejaculatory
orgasms, the chances of you and your partner having an unplanned pregnancy are much lower.
WHERE DOES THE SEMEN GO WHEN I DON'T EJACULATE? The semen is broken down and reabsorbed by the
body, just as the sperm are reabsorbed in a man who has had a vasectomy. However, the effects of the Taoist
techniques on the body are very different from those of a vasectomy. With a vasectomy, the vas deferens is cut just
above the testicles and the sperm have nowhere to go. They are eventually reabsorbed, but many men complain about
feeling congestion in the testicles and pelvis. If you have had a vasectomy, it is additionally important for you to practice
the Testicle Massage exercise (see chapter 8) and to circulate your sexual energy. Both of these techniques help the body
absorb the sperm and reduce any feeling of fullness or congestion. The involuntary contractions of the contractile-phase
orgasms that you will learn to experience without ejaculation also massage the prostate, which helps to relieve
congestion and keep the prostate healthy.
CAN NOT EJACULATING HURT ME? The Taoists have been practicing the techniques given in this book for thousands
of years without negative side effects, and in fact with great improvement to their health and longevity. From their study
of multi-orgasmic men in the West, Dunn and Trost concur: "None of our subjects has yet developed erectile or
ejaculatory difficulties. Our older multiple orgasmic men maintain firm erections after one or more orgasms. In our clinical
experience we have not seen men who become sexually dysfunctional following experimentation with multiple orgasms."
FINDING THE WAY
Where Did It Go?
I didn’t ejaculate, but I lost my erection. What happened? There is one other thing that can happen
to your semen besides its being ejaculated or reabsorbed by your body. Occasionally, as you are
practicing the Taoist techniques, you may experience an orgasm without ejaculating but lose your
erection. If this is not simply due to a decrease in your arousal, you probably have experienced a
retrograde, or backward, ejaculation. When this occurs, the semen goes into your bladder and passes
harmlessly out of your body the next time you urinate. Since you lose your erection and eventually
your sperm (when you urinate), you have not done the practice correctly, but you should also know
that you have not done yourself any harm. Hartman and Fithian explain: "What’s important to know
is that there is no apparent harm to the body when a retrograde ejaculation takes place. All that
happens is that if the ejaculation is complete the penis becomes flaccid, as it usually does after
ordinary ejaculations." If you lose your erection and are curious, you can urinate into a cup. If it's
clouds; you had a retrograde ejaculation. You may not want to do this urine test except when you
are practicing by yourself, since it might seem a bit clinical during a candlelit night of lovemaking.
Your Orgasm
The male orgasm lies on the precipice of ejaculation. If you rush forward to experience it, you will fall over the edge and
down into the ravine of postejaculatory stupor. Though many men continue to feel pleasure after they have ejaculated,
most find themselves at the bottom of their arousal slope, having to climb slowly back up. The five to ten strong
ejaculatory contractions are quite pleasurable; otherwise, most men would not see them as the goal of their desire.
Ejaculatory orgasm may seem like a thrilling ride, but after you experience the prolonged and ecstatic sexual aerobatics
of multiple orgasms, this ejaculatory descent will seem pretty tame and, by comparison, pretty disappointing. "After I
have a ‘squirt’ orgasm," as one multi-orgasmic man described ejaculation, "I feel like I’ve been on a six-second rol er
coaster – after standing in line for two hours!"
feel aroused, our bodies produce more sexual hormones, which in Taoism were considered the fountain of youth. (This
need for arousal is why sex sells: we are drawn to images that stimulate this sexual energy and these sexual hormones.)
When you learn how to circulate your sexual energy, you can feel this rejuvenating polymer at any time.
BECOMING AWARE OF YOUR AROUSAL
To learn to become multi-orgasmic, you will need to become increasingly aware of the speed at which you get aroused.
This sounds pretty straightforward, but most men pay little attention to their arousal rate. Often men go from erection to
ejaculation like race cars, without taking the time to notice, let alone enjoy, the sights along the way.
When you start to get sexually aroused, your penis increases in length and width as its spongy tissue fills with blood. As
you become erect, valves close down in the veins, stopping the blood from returning to the body. Erection occurs
spontaneously in newborn boys and in most men at least several times each night while dreaming.
Almost all men at some time in their lives experience the awkward situation in which they are unable to get an erection
with a partner. The occasional inability to gain an erection may be caused by what psychologist Bernie Zilbergeld calls the
"wisdom of the penis," telling you that there is something that needs to be addressed in your relationship, or it may
simply be a sign that you are distracted by work or other pressures.
If a man repeatedly does not get an erection, he is called impoten a word that also carries the suggestion of being weak
and powerless. In Sexual Kung Fu, there is no such thing as "impotence," and by using the solo exercises to strengthen
your erections and the Soft Entry technique in lovemaking, you should never have to worry about it again. If you are
unable to get an erection when you want or if you want to know what to do when the situation arises (or doesn't), see
"Snake Charming: Overcoming Impotence" in chapter 8.
THE STAGES OF ERECTION
Most men believe they are either horny or they’re not, that they either have an erection or they don't. When we are
young, we get directions so often and so quickly that it is hard to distinguish levels of arousal. The Taoists, however,
noticed that there are actually four stages of erection – four attainments, as they called them.
The first is firmness (also referred to as lengthening).
The second is swelling.
The third is hardness.
The fourth is t
Your erection is not then just a static appendage, but undergoes a process that reflects your level of arousal. Western
physicians have recently confirmed these four stages of erection, although describing them in somewhat more technical
terms.
Healing Tao instructor Walter Beckley described the four stages like this: "In the first stage, your penis starts to move and
f
Entry technique). In the third stage, it is erect and hard. In the fourth stage, it is stiff and really hot. This last stage is
also when your testicles draw into your body. It is much easier to avoid ejaculating when you can remain in the erect and
hard third stage. Pulling the sexual energy up helps keep the penis from getting to the final, stiff and hot stage. Relaxing
is also essential, as is trying to be aware of when you move into that anxious, explosive fourth stage when ejaculation is
imminent.
THE SECRET OF MALE SEXUALITY
As we mature as lovers, we are able to gain some control of our arousal in an attempt to please our partners. General y
called our staying power, this ability is often achieved by learning to distract ourselves from our arousal (thinking about
baseball statistics, for example) rather than by learning to sensitize ourselves to it. True ejaculatory control comes from
knowing your individual arousal rate, not ignoring it. As you learn to feel your rising pleasure more, it will become easier
for you to take the multi-orgasmic path.
BUT ISN'T SEX SUPPOSED TO BE ABOUT RELAXING AND LETTING GO? To experience sexual pleasure, men must
certainly relax and let go, but if we relax and let go too much, we ejaculate and then most, if not all, of the pleasure is
gone. Knowing when to let go of our sexuality and when to control it is the essence of Sexual Kung Fu, and the secret to
male sexuality.
Your Ejaculation
THE MULTI-ORGASMIC MAN
The ejection of semen from your body actually occurs in two parts. In the contractile (sometimes cal ed "emission")
phase, the prostate contracts and empties semen into the urethra. In the expulsion phase, the semen is propelled down
the urethra and out the penis. When you become multi-orgasmic you will experience the pleasurable pelvic contractions –
what we will call con ractile-phase orgasm, which is felt as a popping or fluttering sensation in your prostate – without
actual y ejaculating. Though some men have multiple ejaculations during one love-making session (this is easiest for
teenage boys), it should be clear by now that this is quite different from multiple – nonejaculatory – orgasms.
As you are becoming highly aroused, a few drops of clear fluid may trickle out of your penis. This preseminal fluid comes
from the prostate and other glands, such as the Cowper’s glands, which produce an alkaline fluid used to lubricate the
urethra and pave the way for the sperm. The Taoists called this liquid water, which they distinguished from milk, or
semen. This fluid is perfectly natural and signals the approach of contractile-phase orgasm. It may, however, have a
number of sperm in it. This is the "pre-ejaculate" that they warn you about in sex-education classes, so you will need to
make sure that you continue to use birth control even if you don’t ejaculate. However, if you have nonejaculatory
orgasms, the chances of you and your partner having an unplanned pregnancy are much lower.
WHERE DOES THE SEMEN GO WHEN I DON'T EJACULATE? The semen is broken down and reabsorbed by the
body, just as the sperm are reabsorbed in a man who has had a vasectomy. However, the effects of the Taoist
techniques on the body are very different from those of a vasectomy. With a vasectomy, the vas deferens is cut just
above the testicles and the sperm have nowhere to go. They are eventually reabsorbed, but many men complain about
feeling congestion in the testicles and pelvis. If you have had a vasectomy, it is additionally important for you to practice
the Testicle Massage exercise (see chapter 8) and to circulate your sexual energy. Both of these techniques help the body
absorb the sperm and reduce any feeling of fullness or congestion. The involuntary contractions of the contractile-phase
orgasms that you will learn to experience without ejaculation also massage the prostate, which helps to relieve
congestion and keep the prostate healthy.
CAN NOT EJACULATING HURT ME? The Taoists have been practicing the techniques given in this book for thousands
of years without negative side effects, and in fact with great improvement to their health and longevity. From their study
of multi-orgasmic men in the West, Dunn and Trost concur: "None of our subjects has yet developed erectile or
ejaculatory difficulties. Our older multiple orgasmic men maintain firm erections after one or more orgasms. In our clinical
experience we have not seen men who become sexually dysfunctional following experimentation with multiple orgasms."
FINDING THE WAY
Where Did It Go?
I didn’t ejaculate, but I lost my erection. What happened? There is one other thing that can happen
to your semen besides its being ejaculated or reabsorbed by your body. Occasionally, as you are
practicing the Taoist techniques, you may experience an orgasm without ejaculating but lose your
erection. If this is not simply due to a decrease in your arousal, you probably have experienced a
retrograde, or backward, ejaculation. When this occurs, the semen goes into your bladder and passes
harmlessly out of your body the next time you urinate. Since you lose your erection and eventually
your sperm (when you urinate), you have not done the practice correctly, but you should also know
that you have not done yourself any harm. Hartman and Fithian explain: "What’s important to know
is that there is no apparent harm to the body when a retrograde ejaculation takes place. All that
happens is that if the ejaculation is complete the penis becomes flaccid, as it usually does after
ordinary ejaculations." If you lose your erection and are curious, you can urinate into a cup. If it's
clouds; you had a retrograde ejaculation. You may not want to do this urine test except when you
are practicing by yourself, since it might seem a bit clinical during a candlelit night of lovemaking.
Your Orgasm
The male orgasm lies on the precipice of ejaculation. If you rush forward to experience it, you will fall over the edge and
down into the ravine of postejaculatory stupor. Though many men continue to feel pleasure after they have ejaculated,
most find themselves at the bottom of their arousal slope, having to climb slowly back up. The five to ten strong
ejaculatory contractions are quite pleasurable; otherwise, most men would not see them as the goal of their desire.
Ejaculatory orgasm may seem like a thrilling ride, but after you experience the prolonged and ecstatic sexual aerobatics
of multiple orgasms, this ejaculatory descent will seem pretty tame and, by comparison, pretty disappointing. "After I
have a ‘squirt’ orgasm," as one multi-orgasmic man described ejaculation, "I feel like I’ve been on a six-second rol er
coaster – after standing in line for two hours!"
Your Energy
Understanding how the energy in your body works wil allow you to expand genital orgasms into whole-body orgasms and
to use your sexual energy to improve your creativity and health. As we mentioned in the introduction, Sexual Kung Fu
developed as a branch of Chinese medicine. One of the world’s oldest and most effective healing systems, Chinese
medicine is responsible for the discovery of such successfully proven therapies as acupuncture and acupressure.
According to Chinese medicine, in addition to the physical structures of your body, you also have physical energy that is
constantly circulating through every cell of your body.
THE BODY ELECTRIC
As Western chemistry has become more refined, it is now able to demonstrate that our bodies are indeed fil ed with
energy and electric charges. In the February 1984 issue of Discover magazine, K. C. Cole explained the comparison:
"Electricity is almost certainly the most elusive of everyday things: It lives in the walls of our houses, and regulates the
lives of our cells.... It runs electric trains and human brains.... Your entire body is a giant electric machine: body
chemistry (like all chemistry) is based on electrical bonds."
Chinese medicine is based on a person’s ability to maintain the proper circulation of this bioelectric energy through the
body. If you have ever had acupuncture, you have experienced the circulation of this bioelectric energy, which the
Chinese call chi (pronounced CHEE), in your own body. However, if you have not had this opportunity, there is a simple
experiment you can do to feel your body's chi. Rub your hands together for ten seconds and then hold the palms about
an inch apart. If you concentrate, you should be able to feel a flow of energy passing between them.
The idea of chi is not unique to China. Dr. John Mann and Larry Short, authors of The Body o Light count forty-nine
cultures around the world that have a word for chi; the words vary from prana in Sanskrit to neyayoneyah in Lakota Sioux
to num, which means "boiling point," in the language of the kalahari !Kung. The West is perhaps unique in its lack of an
equivalent term. In the West, we speak about feeling energized or having low energy, but with a few notable exceptions,
we tend to ignore this important part of our physical body.
The concept of chi is gaining increasing acceptance in the medical establishment. A major transition occurred when
President Richard Nixon reestablished diplomatic relations with China in 1972. In Beijing, Chinese doctors performed
emergency surgery on New York Times correspondent James Reston, using only acupuncture for anesthesia. Since then
many delegations of Western physicians to China have witnessed similar events.
Chi is just beginning to be understood in the terminology of Western science. Currently, several Western physicians are
exploring the phenomenon, such as Robert Becker, a Syracuse University orthopedist and author of The Body Electric,
who is trying to explain chi in relation to his work in bioelectricity and healing. It was Dr. Becker’s research into electricity
and its role in regenerating bones that led to the current method of using low-level electrical currents to stimulate the
mending of fractures.
YOUR MICROCOSMIC ORBIT
You have bioelectric energy in every cell of your body. This energy also travels along certain well-defined circuits, called
meridians, which acupuncture utilizes to regulate the amount of chi in any particular part of your body. The main circuit in
the body is cal ed the Microcosmic Orbit (see figure 3) and is made up of two channels, the Back Channel and the Front
Channel (in Chinese medicine traditionally called the Governor Channel and the Functional Channel, respectively).
These channels are part of our earliest development. In utero, our body first resembles a flat disk. As the embryo
develops, the disk folds over, leaving two seams, one along the midline of the back of our body and one along the front.
The back seam can be seen in our spine, but the front line is more subtle. We rarely notice the front seam unless it does
not close completely, as is the case with a child who is born with a harelip.
One multi-orgasmic man explained his understanding of the Microcosmic Orbit: "I think of the Microcosmic Orbit as a
channel or meridian or route that has been discovered and tested over thousands of years to transform the raw biological
energy used to create children into a lighter and more refined energy that can be used to improve one's health and one’s
lovemaking."
THE BACK CHANNEL
THE MULTI-ORGASMIC MAN
Figure 3 - THE MICROCOSMIC ORBIT
The Back Channel begins at the perineum and runs along the back of the body from the tip of the tailbone, up the spine
and neck, to the crown of the head, and finally down the forehead to where it ends between the bottom of the nose and
the upper lip, where there is an indentation.
THE FRONT CHANNEL
The Front Channel runs from the tip of your tongue to your throat and along the midline of your body down to your pubis
and perineum. Touching your tongue to your palate closes the Microcosmic Orbit. The Front Channel is sometimes
translated from the Chinese as the Conception Channel, and if you look very closely at the belly of a woman who is
pregnant, you will generally see a dark line (which doctors call the linea nigra) that extends along part of this channel.
WHAT DOES ENERGY FEEL LIKE WHEN IT IS MOVING IN YOUR BODY?
The fact is that you already have energy, or chi, moving through every part of your body. Without it, you would not be
alive. Generally we just are not aware of this current of energy moving through our bodies. When we first become aware
of chi, we may experience many different sensations. Some of the most common that people report are warmth, tingling,
prickling (like the feeling of static electricity), pulsating, humming, bubbling, and buzzing. Some people feel it move
slowly, while others feel a fast "rush." Though some people feel it move in a straight line along the Microcosmic Orbit,
most people feel it more at some points along the orbit than at others.
HOW DOES CHI MOVE?
There is a Taoist saying: "The mind moves and the chi follows." Wherever you focus your attention, the chi tends to
gather and increase. As biofeedback experiments have now confirmed, focusing your attention on an area of the body
can cause increased activity in the nerves and muscles in that area. The stronger the focus, the greater the movement of
the chi. Keep in mind that you are not pushing o pulling the chi, you are simply shifting your focus to another point.
Understanding this is crucial to developing an effective practice. However, you will not just be moving your attention over
your skin, you will be experiencing a palpable flow of warm, tingling energy.
to use your sexual energy to improve your creativity and health. As we mentioned in the introduction, Sexual Kung Fu
developed as a branch of Chinese medicine. One of the world’s oldest and most effective healing systems, Chinese
medicine is responsible for the discovery of such successfully proven therapies as acupuncture and acupressure.
According to Chinese medicine, in addition to the physical structures of your body, you also have physical energy that is
constantly circulating through every cell of your body.
THE BODY ELECTRIC
As Western chemistry has become more refined, it is now able to demonstrate that our bodies are indeed fil ed with
energy and electric charges. In the February 1984 issue of Discover magazine, K. C. Cole explained the comparison:
"Electricity is almost certainly the most elusive of everyday things: It lives in the walls of our houses, and regulates the
lives of our cells.... It runs electric trains and human brains.... Your entire body is a giant electric machine: body
chemistry (like all chemistry) is based on electrical bonds."
Chinese medicine is based on a person’s ability to maintain the proper circulation of this bioelectric energy through the
body. If you have ever had acupuncture, you have experienced the circulation of this bioelectric energy, which the
Chinese call chi (pronounced CHEE), in your own body. However, if you have not had this opportunity, there is a simple
experiment you can do to feel your body's chi. Rub your hands together for ten seconds and then hold the palms about
an inch apart. If you concentrate, you should be able to feel a flow of energy passing between them.
The idea of chi is not unique to China. Dr. John Mann and Larry Short, authors of The Body o Light count forty-nine
cultures around the world that have a word for chi; the words vary from prana in Sanskrit to neyayoneyah in Lakota Sioux
to num, which means "boiling point," in the language of the kalahari !Kung. The West is perhaps unique in its lack of an
equivalent term. In the West, we speak about feeling energized or having low energy, but with a few notable exceptions,
we tend to ignore this important part of our physical body.
The concept of chi is gaining increasing acceptance in the medical establishment. A major transition occurred when
President Richard Nixon reestablished diplomatic relations with China in 1972. In Beijing, Chinese doctors performed
emergency surgery on New York Times correspondent James Reston, using only acupuncture for anesthesia. Since then
many delegations of Western physicians to China have witnessed similar events.
Chi is just beginning to be understood in the terminology of Western science. Currently, several Western physicians are
exploring the phenomenon, such as Robert Becker, a Syracuse University orthopedist and author of The Body Electric,
who is trying to explain chi in relation to his work in bioelectricity and healing. It was Dr. Becker’s research into electricity
and its role in regenerating bones that led to the current method of using low-level electrical currents to stimulate the
mending of fractures.
YOUR MICROCOSMIC ORBIT
You have bioelectric energy in every cell of your body. This energy also travels along certain well-defined circuits, called
meridians, which acupuncture utilizes to regulate the amount of chi in any particular part of your body. The main circuit in
the body is cal ed the Microcosmic Orbit (see figure 3) and is made up of two channels, the Back Channel and the Front
Channel (in Chinese medicine traditionally called the Governor Channel and the Functional Channel, respectively).
These channels are part of our earliest development. In utero, our body first resembles a flat disk. As the embryo
develops, the disk folds over, leaving two seams, one along the midline of the back of our body and one along the front.
The back seam can be seen in our spine, but the front line is more subtle. We rarely notice the front seam unless it does
not close completely, as is the case with a child who is born with a harelip.
One multi-orgasmic man explained his understanding of the Microcosmic Orbit: "I think of the Microcosmic Orbit as a
channel or meridian or route that has been discovered and tested over thousands of years to transform the raw biological
energy used to create children into a lighter and more refined energy that can be used to improve one's health and one’s
lovemaking."
THE BACK CHANNEL
THE MULTI-ORGASMIC MAN
Figure 3 - THE MICROCOSMIC ORBIT
The Back Channel begins at the perineum and runs along the back of the body from the tip of the tailbone, up the spine
and neck, to the crown of the head, and finally down the forehead to where it ends between the bottom of the nose and
the upper lip, where there is an indentation.
THE FRONT CHANNEL
The Front Channel runs from the tip of your tongue to your throat and along the midline of your body down to your pubis
and perineum. Touching your tongue to your palate closes the Microcosmic Orbit. The Front Channel is sometimes
translated from the Chinese as the Conception Channel, and if you look very closely at the belly of a woman who is
pregnant, you will generally see a dark line (which doctors call the linea nigra) that extends along part of this channel.
WHAT DOES ENERGY FEEL LIKE WHEN IT IS MOVING IN YOUR BODY?
The fact is that you already have energy, or chi, moving through every part of your body. Without it, you would not be
alive. Generally we just are not aware of this current of energy moving through our bodies. When we first become aware
of chi, we may experience many different sensations. Some of the most common that people report are warmth, tingling,
prickling (like the feeling of static electricity), pulsating, humming, bubbling, and buzzing. Some people feel it move
slowly, while others feel a fast "rush." Though some people feel it move in a straight line along the Microcosmic Orbit,
most people feel it more at some points along the orbit than at others.
HOW DOES CHI MOVE?
There is a Taoist saying: "The mind moves and the chi follows." Wherever you focus your attention, the chi tends to
gather and increase. As biofeedback experiments have now confirmed, focusing your attention on an area of the body
can cause increased activity in the nerves and muscles in that area. The stronger the focus, the greater the movement of
the chi. Keep in mind that you are not pushing o pulling the chi, you are simply shifting your focus to another point.
Understanding this is crucial to developing an effective practice. However, you will not just be moving your attention over
your skin, you will be experiencing a palpable flow of warm, tingling energy.
Know Thyself
Exploring your body and understanding your arousal rate are essential to becoming multi-orgasmic. The best lovers are
aware of both their own and their partner’s desires. In the chapter "Know Your Partner", we discuss how to satisfy your
partner’s desires, but first you must learn how to satisfy your own. In this chapter, we begin by briefly describing the
basic facts about your sexual anatomy, your energy, your arousal, your ejaculation, and your orgasms. Then we offer
some ideas for exploring your full potential for pleasure.
Your Body
PENIS
When most men think about their sexuality, they think about their penis. This is a logical place to start, since it is the
most obvious part of our sexual anatomy. Strangely, there is still a lot of mystery and misinformation about this
seemingly simple organ. To begin with, there are no bones or muscles, you cannot enlarge it like your biceps – sorry.
However, two or three inches of the penis is rooted inside the body in the pubococcygeus (pronounced PEW-bo-cox-uh-
GEE-us) muscle – often just called the PC muscle – and it is possible, as we explain in the next chapter, to strengthen this
muscle for stronger erections, stronger orgasms, and better ejaculatory control.
Since many men are concerned with the size of their penis and some are now even having penis-enlargement operations,
we should take a moment to discuss the subject. Throughout human history, men have made many attempts to expand
their so-called manhood – even the Taoists had their method, which we describe in chapter 8. But the truth is that the
size of your erection is much less important than its strength and what you do with it. If you practice Sexual Kung Fu, you
will have ample confirmation that your are "man enough" for any woman. If you are stil concerned about the size of your
penis, take a moment before running out to a plastic surgeon and read the section in chapter 8 called "Please Sir, May I
Have Some More: Enlarging Your Penis."
TESTICLES
Most men know that their sperm is produced in their testicles and may also know that normal body temperature is too
hot for sperm production. (This is why tight underwear that keeps your testicles close to your body can lower your sperm
count.) Your testicles, however, are pulled into the body as they prepare to ejaculate. Pulling the testicles down away
from the body, which we describe below, is one age-old technique for postponing ejaculation.
The vas deferens is a firm tube that extends from the testes to the prostate gland (see figure 2). Sperm move through
this tube to the upper end, where they mix with secretions from the seminal vesicles and the prostate just before
ejaculation. The secretions from the prostate constitute about one-third of your ejaculate and are responsible for its
whitish color. The sperm are only a small part of the ejaculate, which is why a man who has had a vasectomy ejaculates
about the same amount of fluid as he did before the operation.
PROSTATE
THE MULTI-ORGASMIC MAN
The prostate is a gland that lies at the center of your pelvis, just behind the pubic bone, and just above the perineum
(pronounced pear-ah-NEE-um). Most men have heard about the prostate only in connection with the dreaded and
widespread prostate cancer, which occurs in approximately one in eleven American men. A healthy prostate is important
for avoiding prostate cancer and for your long-term sexual well-being. You can help keep your prostate healthy and
possibly reduce your risk of prostate cancer by doing the pelvic Sexual Kung Fu exercises suggested here and by
massaging your prostate regularly. If you have prostate trouble or want to avoid having prostate trouble in the future,
see the section called "My What? Preventing and Helping Prostate Problems".
The prostate, like the G spot for women, is often highly sensitive to sexual stimulation. It has in fact been cal ed "the
male G spot." The authors of The G Spot concluded; "In men there is an orgasm triggered by the penis and one by the
prostate." Men report that prostate orgasms are quite different from penile orgasms, emotionally as well physically. The
authors of The G Spot suggest that this is equivalent to the difference women experience between clitoral and vaginal
orgasms.
Like a woman’s G spot, the prostate becomes increasingly sensitive to erotic stimulation as the man becomes aroused
and approaches orgasm. This is why a prostate checkup at the doctor is quite different from prostate stimulation in bed
with your lover. (You and your partner should remember that the body becomes engorged from front to back, so partners
should wait until a man is highly aroused before attempting prostate stimulation.)
You can stimulate your prostate external y through your perineum at your Million-Dollar Point (more about this spot later
in the chapter) or more directly through your anus. It is not always easy to reach by yourself if you are not very limber.
Generally, the best position is lying on your back, either with your knees bent and your feet on the bed, or with your
knees against your chest. In this position, you can insert a (well-lubricated) finger, curl it forward, and touch your
prostate. You should feel something the size of a walnut an inch or two inside on the anterior (front) wal of your rectum.
Gently rub the prostate back and forth. You can also thrust in and out at different speeds, which will also stimulate the
highly sensitive nerves around your anus. If your partner is willing, she can do the same, but from a slightly easier angle.
(Make sure your or your partner’s nails are short.) If either you or your partner is not interested in venturing inside your
anus, you can stimulate the anal sphincter and/or the perineum, which will also stimulate the prostate.
When prostate stimulation brings you to ejaculation, the fluid generally comes flowing out instead of spurting out. Keep in
mind that this stimulation is very deep and very intense; as a result, it is even more difficult to control your arousal rate
with prostate stimulation than it is with genital stimulation. So go slowly, and try not to push yourself over the edge.
PERINEUM
The perineum is an essential sexual landmark and was called 'he Gate of Life and Death" by the Taoists. Its role in
preventing ejaculation was a closely guarded secret. On the perineum just in front of the anus is the Million-Dollar Point,
named to suggest its value to Sexual Kung Fu (see figure 2). This spot was originally called the Million-Gold-Piece Point
(they didn’t have dol ars back in ancient China), because that is supposedly what it cost you to have a Taoist master
teach you its exact location. (The ancient Taoist masters were holy men, but they also had to make a living.) In the next
chapter, we discuss the role of the Million-Dollar Point in helping you control your ejaculation.
SEX MUSCLES
The pubococcygeus, or PC muscle, is a group of important pelvic muscles that run from your pubic bone ("pubo") in the
front to your tailbone or coccyx ("coccygeus") in the back. These muscles form the basis of your sexual health and are
essential for your becoming multi-orgasmic. In the following chapter we will describe exercises to strengthen these
muscles.
If you have ever been forced to stay in bed for an extended period of time or to wear a cast, you know how your muscles
atrophy and become weak when they are not used. This is equally true of your sex muscles. The penis actual y withdraws
into the body if it is not used regularly, as many older men who are not sexual y active have witnessed. The Taoists knew
that it is as important to exercise your sexual organs as any other part of your body.
ANUS
Its proximity to the prostate and its own high concentration of sensitive nerve endings make the anus a highly erogenous
zone, as many men – both gay and straight – have discovered. Many people worry about the anus being "dirty" and
consider it "unnatural" to stimulate the anus sexually. You should make sure that your anus is clean before you touch it
and that you wash anything (such as a finger) that you use for anal stimulation before using it for vaginal stimulation to
avoid spreading bacteria. Yet it is difficult to explain why the anus would be so sexually sensitive if stimulating it were
"unnatural." Many heterosexual men also worry that they are gay or "will become gay" if they enjoy having their anuses
aware of both their own and their partner’s desires. In the chapter "Know Your Partner", we discuss how to satisfy your
partner’s desires, but first you must learn how to satisfy your own. In this chapter, we begin by briefly describing the
basic facts about your sexual anatomy, your energy, your arousal, your ejaculation, and your orgasms. Then we offer
some ideas for exploring your full potential for pleasure.
Your Body
PENIS
When most men think about their sexuality, they think about their penis. This is a logical place to start, since it is the
most obvious part of our sexual anatomy. Strangely, there is still a lot of mystery and misinformation about this
seemingly simple organ. To begin with, there are no bones or muscles, you cannot enlarge it like your biceps – sorry.
However, two or three inches of the penis is rooted inside the body in the pubococcygeus (pronounced PEW-bo-cox-uh-
GEE-us) muscle – often just called the PC muscle – and it is possible, as we explain in the next chapter, to strengthen this
muscle for stronger erections, stronger orgasms, and better ejaculatory control.
Since many men are concerned with the size of their penis and some are now even having penis-enlargement operations,
we should take a moment to discuss the subject. Throughout human history, men have made many attempts to expand
their so-called manhood – even the Taoists had their method, which we describe in chapter 8. But the truth is that the
size of your erection is much less important than its strength and what you do with it. If you practice Sexual Kung Fu, you
will have ample confirmation that your are "man enough" for any woman. If you are stil concerned about the size of your
penis, take a moment before running out to a plastic surgeon and read the section in chapter 8 called "Please Sir, May I
Have Some More: Enlarging Your Penis."
TESTICLES
Most men know that their sperm is produced in their testicles and may also know that normal body temperature is too
hot for sperm production. (This is why tight underwear that keeps your testicles close to your body can lower your sperm
count.) Your testicles, however, are pulled into the body as they prepare to ejaculate. Pulling the testicles down away
from the body, which we describe below, is one age-old technique for postponing ejaculation.
The vas deferens is a firm tube that extends from the testes to the prostate gland (see figure 2). Sperm move through
this tube to the upper end, where they mix with secretions from the seminal vesicles and the prostate just before
ejaculation. The secretions from the prostate constitute about one-third of your ejaculate and are responsible for its
whitish color. The sperm are only a small part of the ejaculate, which is why a man who has had a vasectomy ejaculates
about the same amount of fluid as he did before the operation.
PROSTATE
THE MULTI-ORGASMIC MAN
The prostate is a gland that lies at the center of your pelvis, just behind the pubic bone, and just above the perineum
(pronounced pear-ah-NEE-um). Most men have heard about the prostate only in connection with the dreaded and
widespread prostate cancer, which occurs in approximately one in eleven American men. A healthy prostate is important
for avoiding prostate cancer and for your long-term sexual well-being. You can help keep your prostate healthy and
possibly reduce your risk of prostate cancer by doing the pelvic Sexual Kung Fu exercises suggested here and by
massaging your prostate regularly. If you have prostate trouble or want to avoid having prostate trouble in the future,
see the section called "My What? Preventing and Helping Prostate Problems".
The prostate, like the G spot for women, is often highly sensitive to sexual stimulation. It has in fact been cal ed "the
male G spot." The authors of The G Spot concluded; "In men there is an orgasm triggered by the penis and one by the
prostate." Men report that prostate orgasms are quite different from penile orgasms, emotionally as well physically. The
authors of The G Spot suggest that this is equivalent to the difference women experience between clitoral and vaginal
orgasms.
Like a woman’s G spot, the prostate becomes increasingly sensitive to erotic stimulation as the man becomes aroused
and approaches orgasm. This is why a prostate checkup at the doctor is quite different from prostate stimulation in bed
with your lover. (You and your partner should remember that the body becomes engorged from front to back, so partners
should wait until a man is highly aroused before attempting prostate stimulation.)
You can stimulate your prostate external y through your perineum at your Million-Dollar Point (more about this spot later
in the chapter) or more directly through your anus. It is not always easy to reach by yourself if you are not very limber.
Generally, the best position is lying on your back, either with your knees bent and your feet on the bed, or with your
knees against your chest. In this position, you can insert a (well-lubricated) finger, curl it forward, and touch your
prostate. You should feel something the size of a walnut an inch or two inside on the anterior (front) wal of your rectum.
Gently rub the prostate back and forth. You can also thrust in and out at different speeds, which will also stimulate the
highly sensitive nerves around your anus. If your partner is willing, she can do the same, but from a slightly easier angle.
(Make sure your or your partner’s nails are short.) If either you or your partner is not interested in venturing inside your
anus, you can stimulate the anal sphincter and/or the perineum, which will also stimulate the prostate.
When prostate stimulation brings you to ejaculation, the fluid generally comes flowing out instead of spurting out. Keep in
mind that this stimulation is very deep and very intense; as a result, it is even more difficult to control your arousal rate
with prostate stimulation than it is with genital stimulation. So go slowly, and try not to push yourself over the edge.
PERINEUM
The perineum is an essential sexual landmark and was called 'he Gate of Life and Death" by the Taoists. Its role in
preventing ejaculation was a closely guarded secret. On the perineum just in front of the anus is the Million-Dollar Point,
named to suggest its value to Sexual Kung Fu (see figure 2). This spot was originally called the Million-Gold-Piece Point
(they didn’t have dol ars back in ancient China), because that is supposedly what it cost you to have a Taoist master
teach you its exact location. (The ancient Taoist masters were holy men, but they also had to make a living.) In the next
chapter, we discuss the role of the Million-Dollar Point in helping you control your ejaculation.
SEX MUSCLES
The pubococcygeus, or PC muscle, is a group of important pelvic muscles that run from your pubic bone ("pubo") in the
front to your tailbone or coccyx ("coccygeus") in the back. These muscles form the basis of your sexual health and are
essential for your becoming multi-orgasmic. In the following chapter we will describe exercises to strengthen these
muscles.
If you have ever been forced to stay in bed for an extended period of time or to wear a cast, you know how your muscles
atrophy and become weak when they are not used. This is equally true of your sex muscles. The penis actual y withdraws
into the body if it is not used regularly, as many older men who are not sexual y active have witnessed. The Taoists knew
that it is as important to exercise your sexual organs as any other part of your body.
ANUS
Its proximity to the prostate and its own high concentration of sensitive nerve endings make the anus a highly erogenous
zone, as many men – both gay and straight – have discovered. Many people worry about the anus being "dirty" and
consider it "unnatural" to stimulate the anus sexually. You should make sure that your anus is clean before you touch it
and that you wash anything (such as a finger) that you use for anal stimulation before using it for vaginal stimulation to
avoid spreading bacteria. Yet it is difficult to explain why the anus would be so sexually sensitive if stimulating it were
"unnatural." Many heterosexual men also worry that they are gay or "will become gay" if they enjoy having their anuses
The Proof Is in Your Pants- Brain Waves and Reflexes
Brain Waves and Reflexes
Orgasm is one of the most intense and satisfying human experiences, and if you have ever had an orgasm – and almost
all men have – you will not need to have it defined. All orgasms, however, are not created equal. Orgasm is slightly
different for each person and even different for the same person at different times. Nonetheless, men’s orgasms share
certain characteristics, including rhythmic body movements, increased heart rate, muscle tension, and then a sudden
release of tension, including pelvic contractions. They feel good, too. After noting that "orgasm is the least understood of
the sexual processes," the thirteenth edition of Smith's General Urology explains that orgasm includes "involuntary
rhythmic contractions of the anal sphincter, hyperventilation [increased breathing rate], tachycardia [increased heart
rate], and elevation of blood pressure."
These definitions include changes that occur throughout your entire body. However, for a long time orgasm was seen –
and for many men is still seen – as strictly a genital affair. In the West, William Reich, in his controversial book The
t
the Taoists have long known that orgasm could be a whole-body experience and developed techniques for expanding
orgasmic pleasure.
Many sex researchers are now arguing that orgasm really has more to do with our brain than our brawn. Brain-wave
research is beginning to reveal that orgasm may occur primarily in the brain. That you can have an orgasm in your sleep
– without any bodily touch – seems to confirm this theory. Further support comes from neurologist Robert J. Heath of
Tulane University, who discovered that when certain parts of the brain are stimulated with electrodes they produce sexual
pleasure identical to that produced by physical stimulation. Many sex therapists are fond of saying that sex takes place in
the brain. There is some truth to this statement – especial y when it comes to orgasm.
Unlike orgasm, which is a peak emotional and physical experience, ejaculation is simply a reflex that occurs at the base of
the spine and results in the ejection of semen. Michael Winn, senior Healing Tao instructor and coauthor of
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of Lowe: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy, explains: "A lot of men are freaked out by the very idea of nonejaculatory
orgasm because they’ve been having ejaculatory sex for such a long time, often decades. So the first thing to do is
demystify ejaculation, which is just an involuntary muscle spasm."
With practice, you can learn to experience the peak feeling of orgasm without triggering the reflex of ejaculation. In the
next two chapters we will explain, step-by-step, exactly how to separate orgasm from ejaculation and how to expand
your orgasms throughout your body. But first let’s look at the evidence that men, like women, can have multiple orgasms.
Prove It
Probably the most extensive laboratory investigation of male multiple orgasms was made by sex researchers William
Hartman and Marilyn Fithian. They tested thirty-three men who claimed to be multi-orgasmic – that is, to be able to have
two or more orgasms without losing their erection.
While these men had sex with their partners in the laboratory, Hartman and Fithian monitored their heart rates, which the
researchers had chosen as the clearest method of identifying orgasms. At rest, the average heart rate is around 70 beats
per minute; during orgasm it almost doubles, rising to about 120. After orgasm, the heart returns to its resting rate (see
figure 1). They also measured pelvic contractions (most obvious in the involuntary squeezing of the anus), which
coincided with the peaking of heart rate at orgasm. What they found was pretty surprising: the arousal charts for these
men were identical to those of multi-orgasmic women.
Male and female sexuality may be more similar than is usually thought. Developmentally, this similarity makes sense,
since male and female genitals come from the same fetal tissue. In their famous book The G Spot and Other Recent
Discoveries About Human Sexuality, Alice Ladas, Beverly Whipple, and John Perry argued that male and female sexuality
were almost identical. In addition to their much-reported discovery of the female "G spot" (which we will discuss more in
chapter 4), they also suggested that men can experience multiple orgasms just like women.
During Hartman and Fithian's research, the average number of orgasms a multi-orgasmic man had was four. Some men
had the minimum of two, and one had as many as sixteen! In a study by clarion Dunn and Jan Trost, most men reported
having from two to nine orgasms per session.
It is important to mention here that Taoist sexuality is not about numbers and keeping score, it is about satisfaction and
cultivation. You can feel satisfied with one orgasm, with three orgasms, or with sixteen orgasms. You cultivate your
sexuality as you deepen your an awareness of your body's pleasure and increase your ability for intimacy with your
partner. Each person and each sexual experience wil be different, and the "right" number of orgasms will depend on your
and your partner’s desires at the time. When you become multi-orgasmic, you will never have to worry about how long
you can last or how many orgasms your partner has, because you will both be able to have all the orgasms you could
ever want.
The Little Death
As doctors, the Taoist masters were interested in sexuality as part of a larger concern for the health of the entire body.
They practiced Sexual Kung Fu because they discovered that ejaculation drains a man’s energy. You have probably also
noticed this loss of energy and general feeling of fatigue after ejaculating. Even though you would like to be attentive to
your partner’s sexual and emotional needs, all your body wants to do is sleep. As one multi-orgasmic man put it, "Once I
ejaculate, the pillow looks better than my girlfriend does."
The image of the unsatisfied woman whose lover ejaculates, grunts, and collapses on top of her is so common that it has
become a cultural joke, but the exhaustion that men feel after ejaculating is as old as the first coital groan. Peng-Tze, a
sex adviser to the famed Yellow Emperor, reported almost five thousand years ago: "After ejaculating, a man is tired, his
ears buzz, his eyes are heavy, and he longs for sleep. He is thirsty and his limbs feel weak and stiff. In ejaculating he
enjoys a brief moment of sensation but then suffers long hours of exhaustion."
Western folk wisdom agrees with the Taoists regarding the importance of conserving sexual energy. Athletes have long
known the weakness and lethargy that follow ejaculation, abstaining from sex the night before the "big game." Artists
have also felt the lingering effects on their work. Jazz musician Miles Davis explained in a Playboy magazine interview:
Davis: You can't come, then fight or play. You can’t do it. When I get ready to come, I come. But I do not come and
play.
Playboy: Explain that in layman's terms.
Davis: Ask Muhammad Ali. If he comes, he can’t fight two minutes. Shit, he couldn’t even whip me.
Playboy: Would you fight Muhammad Ali under those conditions, to prove your point.
Davis: You’re goddamn right I’d fight him. But he’s got to promise to fuck first. If he ain’t going to fuck, I ain’t going
to fight. You give up all your energy when you come. I mean, you give up all of it! So, if you’re going to fuck before
a gig, how are you going to give something when it’s time to hit?
Miles wasn’t exactly a romantic, but he didn’t mince words, either. As one of the world’s greatest trumpet players, he
knew how ejaculating decreased his stamina and depleted his art. Unfortunately, like most men, he didn’t know that he
could have had sex all he wanted, even have orgasmed, before any gig – as long as he didn’t ejaculate. It might have
even improved his "hitting."
Although the effects of ejaculating may be more obvious to professional musicians and prizefighters, al men eventually
experience the same depletion from coming – which might more appropriately be cal ed going. According to one multi-
orgasmic man, "I really notice it in the morning if I ejaculate. I get up dragging my feet and I am tired by noon. When I
have multiple orgasms without ejaculating, I wake up refreshed and I need less sleep." Another man who was recovering
from a chronic illness explained: "My sexual desire has always been strong, so I ejaculated often, once or twice a day.
And with every ejaculation my health got worse and worse because I was losing a lot of energy." Many men, especially
young men, may not notice this feeling of depletion at first unless they ejaculate when they are sick or working hard.
In the West, we assume that ejaculation is an inevitable culmination of male arousal and the end of lovemaking. In China,
however, doctors long ago saw what the French call le pe it mort – "the little death" of ejaculation – as an avoidable
betrayal of male pleasure and a dangerous depletion of male vitality.
Orgasm is one of the most intense and satisfying human experiences, and if you have ever had an orgasm – and almost
all men have – you will not need to have it defined. All orgasms, however, are not created equal. Orgasm is slightly
different for each person and even different for the same person at different times. Nonetheless, men’s orgasms share
certain characteristics, including rhythmic body movements, increased heart rate, muscle tension, and then a sudden
release of tension, including pelvic contractions. They feel good, too. After noting that "orgasm is the least understood of
the sexual processes," the thirteenth edition of Smith's General Urology explains that orgasm includes "involuntary
rhythmic contractions of the anal sphincter, hyperventilation [increased breathing rate], tachycardia [increased heart
rate], and elevation of blood pressure."
These definitions include changes that occur throughout your entire body. However, for a long time orgasm was seen –
and for many men is still seen – as strictly a genital affair. In the West, William Reich, in his controversial book The
t
the Taoists have long known that orgasm could be a whole-body experience and developed techniques for expanding
orgasmic pleasure.
Many sex researchers are now arguing that orgasm really has more to do with our brain than our brawn. Brain-wave
research is beginning to reveal that orgasm may occur primarily in the brain. That you can have an orgasm in your sleep
– without any bodily touch – seems to confirm this theory. Further support comes from neurologist Robert J. Heath of
Tulane University, who discovered that when certain parts of the brain are stimulated with electrodes they produce sexual
pleasure identical to that produced by physical stimulation. Many sex therapists are fond of saying that sex takes place in
the brain. There is some truth to this statement – especial y when it comes to orgasm.
Unlike orgasm, which is a peak emotional and physical experience, ejaculation is simply a reflex that occurs at the base of
the spine and results in the ejection of semen. Michael Winn, senior Healing Tao instructor and coauthor of
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of Lowe: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy, explains: "A lot of men are freaked out by the very idea of nonejaculatory
orgasm because they’ve been having ejaculatory sex for such a long time, often decades. So the first thing to do is
demystify ejaculation, which is just an involuntary muscle spasm."
With practice, you can learn to experience the peak feeling of orgasm without triggering the reflex of ejaculation. In the
next two chapters we will explain, step-by-step, exactly how to separate orgasm from ejaculation and how to expand
your orgasms throughout your body. But first let’s look at the evidence that men, like women, can have multiple orgasms.
Prove It
Probably the most extensive laboratory investigation of male multiple orgasms was made by sex researchers William
Hartman and Marilyn Fithian. They tested thirty-three men who claimed to be multi-orgasmic – that is, to be able to have
two or more orgasms without losing their erection.
While these men had sex with their partners in the laboratory, Hartman and Fithian monitored their heart rates, which the
researchers had chosen as the clearest method of identifying orgasms. At rest, the average heart rate is around 70 beats
per minute; during orgasm it almost doubles, rising to about 120. After orgasm, the heart returns to its resting rate (see
figure 1). They also measured pelvic contractions (most obvious in the involuntary squeezing of the anus), which
coincided with the peaking of heart rate at orgasm. What they found was pretty surprising: the arousal charts for these
men were identical to those of multi-orgasmic women.
Male and female sexuality may be more similar than is usually thought. Developmentally, this similarity makes sense,
since male and female genitals come from the same fetal tissue. In their famous book The G Spot and Other Recent
Discoveries About Human Sexuality, Alice Ladas, Beverly Whipple, and John Perry argued that male and female sexuality
were almost identical. In addition to their much-reported discovery of the female "G spot" (which we will discuss more in
chapter 4), they also suggested that men can experience multiple orgasms just like women.
During Hartman and Fithian's research, the average number of orgasms a multi-orgasmic man had was four. Some men
had the minimum of two, and one had as many as sixteen! In a study by clarion Dunn and Jan Trost, most men reported
having from two to nine orgasms per session.
It is important to mention here that Taoist sexuality is not about numbers and keeping score, it is about satisfaction and
cultivation. You can feel satisfied with one orgasm, with three orgasms, or with sixteen orgasms. You cultivate your
sexuality as you deepen your an awareness of your body's pleasure and increase your ability for intimacy with your
partner. Each person and each sexual experience wil be different, and the "right" number of orgasms will depend on your
and your partner’s desires at the time. When you become multi-orgasmic, you will never have to worry about how long
you can last or how many orgasms your partner has, because you will both be able to have all the orgasms you could
ever want.
The Little Death
As doctors, the Taoist masters were interested in sexuality as part of a larger concern for the health of the entire body.
They practiced Sexual Kung Fu because they discovered that ejaculation drains a man’s energy. You have probably also
noticed this loss of energy and general feeling of fatigue after ejaculating. Even though you would like to be attentive to
your partner’s sexual and emotional needs, all your body wants to do is sleep. As one multi-orgasmic man put it, "Once I
ejaculate, the pillow looks better than my girlfriend does."
The image of the unsatisfied woman whose lover ejaculates, grunts, and collapses on top of her is so common that it has
become a cultural joke, but the exhaustion that men feel after ejaculating is as old as the first coital groan. Peng-Tze, a
sex adviser to the famed Yellow Emperor, reported almost five thousand years ago: "After ejaculating, a man is tired, his
ears buzz, his eyes are heavy, and he longs for sleep. He is thirsty and his limbs feel weak and stiff. In ejaculating he
enjoys a brief moment of sensation but then suffers long hours of exhaustion."
Western folk wisdom agrees with the Taoists regarding the importance of conserving sexual energy. Athletes have long
known the weakness and lethargy that follow ejaculation, abstaining from sex the night before the "big game." Artists
have also felt the lingering effects on their work. Jazz musician Miles Davis explained in a Playboy magazine interview:
Davis: You can't come, then fight or play. You can’t do it. When I get ready to come, I come. But I do not come and
play.
Playboy: Explain that in layman's terms.
Davis: Ask Muhammad Ali. If he comes, he can’t fight two minutes. Shit, he couldn’t even whip me.
Playboy: Would you fight Muhammad Ali under those conditions, to prove your point.
Davis: You’re goddamn right I’d fight him. But he’s got to promise to fuck first. If he ain’t going to fuck, I ain’t going
to fight. You give up all your energy when you come. I mean, you give up all of it! So, if you’re going to fuck before
a gig, how are you going to give something when it’s time to hit?
Miles wasn’t exactly a romantic, but he didn’t mince words, either. As one of the world’s greatest trumpet players, he
knew how ejaculating decreased his stamina and depleted his art. Unfortunately, like most men, he didn’t know that he
could have had sex all he wanted, even have orgasmed, before any gig – as long as he didn’t ejaculate. It might have
even improved his "hitting."
Although the effects of ejaculating may be more obvious to professional musicians and prizefighters, al men eventually
experience the same depletion from coming – which might more appropriately be cal ed going. According to one multi-
orgasmic man, "I really notice it in the morning if I ejaculate. I get up dragging my feet and I am tired by noon. When I
have multiple orgasms without ejaculating, I wake up refreshed and I need less sleep." Another man who was recovering
from a chronic illness explained: "My sexual desire has always been strong, so I ejaculated often, once or twice a day.
And with every ejaculation my health got worse and worse because I was losing a lot of energy." Many men, especially
young men, may not notice this feeling of depletion at first unless they ejaculate when they are sick or working hard.
In the West, we assume that ejaculation is an inevitable culmination of male arousal and the end of lovemaking. In China,
however, doctors long ago saw what the French call le pe it mort – "the little death" of ejaculation – as an avoidable
betrayal of male pleasure and a dangerous depletion of male vitality.
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