Know Thyself

Exploring your body and understanding your arousal rate are essential to becoming multi-orgasmic. The best lovers are
aware of both their own and their partner’s desires. In the chapter "Know Your Partner", we discuss how to satisfy your
partner’s desires, but first you must learn how to satisfy your own. In this chapter, we begin by briefly describing the
basic facts about your sexual anatomy, your energy, your arousal, your ejaculation, and your orgasms. Then we offer
some ideas for exploring your full potential for pleasure.
Your Body
PENIS
When most men think about their sexuality, they think about their penis. This is a logical place to start, since it is the
most obvious part of our sexual anatomy. Strangely, there is still a lot of mystery and misinformation about this
seemingly simple organ. To begin with, there are no bones or muscles, you cannot enlarge it like your biceps – sorry.
However, two or three inches of the penis is rooted inside the body in the pubococcygeus (pronounced PEW-bo-cox-uh-
GEE-us) muscle – often just called the PC muscle – and it is possible, as we explain in the next chapter, to strengthen this
muscle for stronger erections, stronger orgasms, and better ejaculatory control.
Since many men are concerned with the size of their penis and some are now even having penis-enlargement operations,
we should take a moment to discuss the subject. Throughout human history, men have made many attempts to expand
their so-called manhood – even the Taoists had their method, which we describe in chapter 8. But the truth is that the
size of your erection is much less important than its strength and what you do with it. If you practice Sexual Kung Fu, you
will have ample confirmation that your are "man enough" for any woman. If you are stil concerned about the size of your
penis, take a moment before running out to a plastic surgeon and read the section in chapter 8 called "Please Sir, May I
Have Some More: Enlarging Your Penis."
TESTICLES
Most men know that their sperm is produced in their testicles and may also know that normal body temperature is too
hot for sperm production. (This is why tight underwear that keeps your testicles close to your body can lower your sperm
count.) Your testicles, however, are pulled into the body as they prepare to ejaculate. Pulling the testicles down away
from the body, which we describe below, is one age-old technique for postponing ejaculation.
The vas deferens is a firm tube that extends from the testes to the prostate gland (see figure 2). Sperm move through
this tube to the upper end, where they mix with secretions from the seminal vesicles and the prostate just before
ejaculation. The secretions from the prostate constitute about one-third of your ejaculate and are responsible for its
whitish color. The sperm are only a small part of the ejaculate, which is why a man who has had a vasectomy ejaculates
about the same amount of fluid as he did before the operation.


PROSTATE
THE MULTI-ORGASMIC MAN
The prostate is a gland that lies at the center of your pelvis, just behind the pubic bone, and just above the perineum
(pronounced pear-ah-NEE-um). Most men have heard about the prostate only in connection with the dreaded and
widespread prostate cancer, which occurs in approximately one in eleven American men. A healthy prostate is important
for avoiding prostate cancer and for your long-term sexual well-being. You can help keep your prostate healthy and
possibly reduce your risk of prostate cancer by doing the pelvic Sexual Kung Fu exercises suggested here and by
massaging your prostate regularly. If you have prostate trouble or want to avoid having prostate trouble in the future,
see the section called "My What? Preventing and Helping Prostate Problems".
The prostate, like the G spot for women, is often highly sensitive to sexual stimulation. It has in fact been cal ed "the
male G spot." The authors of The G Spot concluded; "In men there is an orgasm triggered by the penis and one by the
prostate." Men report that prostate orgasms are quite different from penile orgasms, emotionally as well physically. The
authors of The G Spot suggest that this is equivalent to the difference women experience between clitoral and vaginal
orgasms.
Like a woman’s G spot, the prostate becomes increasingly sensitive to erotic stimulation as the man becomes aroused
and approaches orgasm. This is why a prostate checkup at the doctor is quite different from prostate stimulation in bed
with your lover. (You and your partner should remember that the body becomes engorged from front to back, so partners
should wait until a man is highly aroused before attempting prostate stimulation.)
You can stimulate your prostate external y through your perineum at your Million-Dollar Point (more about this spot later
in the chapter) or more directly through your anus. It is not always easy to reach by yourself if you are not very limber.
Generally, the best position is lying on your back, either with your knees bent and your feet on the bed, or with your
knees against your chest. In this position, you can insert a (well-lubricated) finger, curl it forward, and touch your
prostate. You should feel something the size of a walnut an inch or two inside on the anterior (front) wal of your rectum.
Gently rub the prostate back and forth. You can also thrust in and out at different speeds, which will also stimulate the
highly sensitive nerves around your anus. If your partner is willing, she can do the same, but from a slightly easier angle.
(Make sure your or your partner’s nails are short.) If either you or your partner is not interested in venturing inside your
anus, you can stimulate the anal sphincter and/or the perineum, which will also stimulate the prostate.
When prostate stimulation brings you to ejaculation, the fluid generally comes flowing out instead of spurting out. Keep in
mind that this stimulation is very deep and very intense; as a result, it is even more difficult to control your arousal rate
with prostate stimulation than it is with genital stimulation. So go slowly, and try not to push yourself over the edge.
PERINEUM
The perineum is an essential sexual landmark and was called 'he Gate of Life and Death" by the Taoists. Its role in
preventing ejaculation was a closely guarded secret. On the perineum just in front of the anus is the Million-Dollar Point,
named to suggest its value to Sexual Kung Fu (see figure 2). This spot was originally called the Million-Gold-Piece Point
(they didn’t have dol ars back in ancient China), because that is supposedly what it cost you to have a Taoist master
teach you its exact location. (The ancient Taoist masters were holy men, but they also had to make a living.) In the next
chapter, we discuss the role of the Million-Dollar Point in helping you control your ejaculation.
SEX MUSCLES
The pubococcygeus, or PC muscle, is a group of important pelvic muscles that run from your pubic bone ("pubo") in the
front to your tailbone or coccyx ("coccygeus") in the back. These muscles form the basis of your sexual health and are
essential for your becoming multi-orgasmic. In the following chapter we will describe exercises to strengthen these
muscles.
If you have ever been forced to stay in bed for an extended period of time or to wear a cast, you know how your muscles
atrophy and become weak when they are not used. This is equally true of your sex muscles. The penis actual y withdraws
into the body if it is not used regularly, as many older men who are not sexual y active have witnessed. The Taoists knew
that it is as important to exercise your sexual organs as any other part of your body.
ANUS
Its proximity to the prostate and its own high concentration of sensitive nerve endings make the anus a highly erogenous
zone, as many men – both gay and straight – have discovered. Many people worry about the anus being "dirty" and
consider it "unnatural" to stimulate the anus sexually. You should make sure that your anus is clean before you touch it
and that you wash anything (such as a finger) that you use for anal stimulation before using it for vaginal stimulation to
avoid spreading bacteria. Yet it is difficult to explain why the anus would be so sexually sensitive if stimulating it were
"unnatural." Many heterosexual men also worry that they are gay or "will become gay" if they enjoy having their anuses